...brought to you with 5 years of "This is China" and counting.

Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts

Friday, September 18, 2009

Appreciating the little things in China


"Let's just walk."



Hong Kong is still one of the most vibrantly developed city of Asia.



But blue sunny skies and white clouds...is really that simple and nice.


A reminiscent moment...

Since mom's back in HK, I'm temporarily living and working as a "single" again. From taking out the trash, to cleaning the apartment, and taking Lyka out for her walks...it's been a lot of little daily tasks added on the platter. Not that I'm complaining, in fact it's been one of the best "breaks" in awhile. Walking Lyka at night, taking her off the leash and just strolling my street down...it's really peaceful. It's a moment of just me and Lyka, her doing her thing, peeing at every little corner (i think she's possessive and stubborn...she just HAS to make her mark on every other tree and corner...as if to let u know "HEY IVE BEEN HERE" *snickers*); and for me, a simple quiet moment to sort out my thoughts and just enjoy the moment, of walking.

Sometimes, Shanghai is quite the hustle and bustle city...so many changes happening by the day, it's somewhat subtle and yet fast paced. One day, a restaurant opens; the next day, a new club opening. One weekend, friends are in town visiting, another weekend with clients. This is a city that doesn't stop. And it's this energy, this vibe, this change...that has made me love (and hate) this city, at different moments.

But I'll admit to this. Living in an environment like this, can blur one's vision. It can be exhausting. And soul-draining. One's vision of what's real, what's genuine, and what really matters...can be easily distorted. A well-decored shop, selling no-brand designer-ish clothes at ¥1000+ a piece; could be the hottest spot in town this month...and 3 months later, it's gone. A new restaurant with top quality food and decor, only to be filled with lazy staff, slow orders, distasteful food...within a span of half a year. An ambitious entrepreneur new in Shanghai, excited and passionate and hopeful (i.e.: innocent, naive), only to have met the wrong people or because of the lack of China-experience...ends up losing all initial investments/savings. Everything that once felt permanent, ends up temporary.

On the other hand, these temporary moments of "high"...like, an invitation-only event launch, concert, restaurant opening, artist press conference, fashion show...how real/accessible is it in Shanghai vs. let's say Hong Kong, Tokyo, New York, London, Paris? And we're spoiled with all this, because of what we do (or who we know) and also the fact that living in Shanghai seems to have granted us with easy easier access, of it all. My question however is, when does it hit one person...to understand and realize, there's also much more to appreciate, than all of the above?

What happened to good friends? Girlfriends who you can call in the middle of the night, crying or drunk or laughing our asses off...and simply knowing she'll pick up and there when you need it? What about an invitation to a heartful home-cooked meal, to simply indulge in the food and company? What about the men (or women) who is mature enough to understand...there is no perfect partner out there? What about working together as a team, with a united goal to achieve, and help each other out through our strengths and weaknesses?

Or the random acts of kindness, that happens (yes scaryJ, it DOES happen OK?) when...your neighbors hold the elevator, waiting for you to come in? Or the security guard who asks if it's okay to come inside to your apartment, coz something from above seems to have fallen down, but they're not sure which floor and are worried it might cause an accident? Or your coworker who will work/stay/spend over-time with you, not because she hasn't finished her work, but she's offering her help to translate or keep you company? Or someone finding/returning a phone you've previously lost, from a crazy night out?*

Excuse the sentimental post today, but I still stubbornly strongly believe that...one person's attitude, defines it all. And learning to seek and appreciate the little things in life...has been the most humbling, appreciative, and heartfelt experience in China.  

"It's not how bad this world is...it's what good you try to make outta it."

*100 % misspicy experiences in China...good things do happen!!

Friday, September 4, 2009

Latest Reads



Read a few interesting articles, reviews and blogs the past week. Some shocking, some interesting, some comforting...

http://beijinghaze.blogspot.com/
Regarding China's "System": An American wife has been blogging about her husband's detainment in Beijing. He was arrested at a massage parlor for "indecent behavior" and is locked up since August. Through investigation, bribery compensation fees, inaccurate translation/communication...she is still waiting for her husband to return home. As China is preparing its 60 year anniversary, there has been major governmental crackdowns towards drunk driving, prostitution, and drugs. TIC factor +10 stars.

http://adage.com/digital/article?article_id=138770
On the technical front: Need more friends? $654.30 can buy you 5000 fans/followers. Not surprised that this service is now available (from USocial), and it is an exceptionally interesting business model for online advertising. But nonetheless absurd to me. If friends/followers/fans can be bought...how well can it help the brand/product to REALLY sell? Does it ensure that within this group of 5000+ "friends", x amount of these people will eventually be brand/product-converted? Paying for followers/fans would be like buying a happy ending massage...looks and feels good temporarily, but honestly, you just spent your money on something too insubstantial to see/know the difference, no?

http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathethinks/0,,askmen_866mq1rk-p,00.html
Love me, Need me, Want me? 10 Traits that make a great gf.
Keywords: Intelligent, Sexual, Independent, Respectful, Beautiful, Lets the Man BE the Man, Nag-less, Great with Friends & Family, Loves You, and Makes the Man WANT to be a Better Man.
Need I say more? ;)

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

MMS of the Day


12580 生活播报,8月25日星期三,农历七月初六 

如果你爱他,那就带他来上海;
如果你狠他,那就自己来上海。
这是两个人的天堂,
也是一个人的乐园。

--- --- --- --- ---

中国移动,你今天的MMS太棒了吧。。。
什么时候变成爱情专家呢?
有空我一定要约你喝咖啡。。。呵呵

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

我是女王


*originally posted on Facebook* 

好久沒靈感了,回想上一次好好的坐下來中文寫作,都有10年前讀書時,在日記里面寫的一些很單純,很簡單的感受。最近可能是過渡性失眠,或是剛有個醉蛋打電話過來吵醒我,反正睡不著了。。。那不如痛快的把靈感好好發揮一下

上一個note "Bad Boys are soooo 2007"是M小姐跟我聊天而得到的靈感,今天也算是個續節。她之前借給了我一本書,還強烈的說每個girlfriend一定要看。那時候我還想。。。“天喔有沒有這么勁?!拜托不要給我另外一本 Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps,我個性夠好奇了,再想這么多WHYS我快會瘋!”

書名是:我是女王,里面寫了很多好女孩不懂得事。可以算跟 He's Just Not That Into You or Why Men Like Bitches 的書類像,可以inpsire到女人活得聰明,獨立,自信,開心一點;而不是永遠活在一個白雪公主的幻想,等到夢想成真,白馬王子會帶著LV包包,把全部的理想噻在里面獻給你。可是重點是,這本書很婉轉地反應現在年輕的社會,男女人對愛情和性的不同想法和概念。

妳不用告訴別人妳的體重、罩杯、交過幾個男友,
妳不用當被拯救的公主、被肯定的尤物,
妳不必期待白馬王子,
如果妳可以當女王,為何妳要當公主?

女王

作者筆名

應該不是因為她喜歡玩SM才叫女皇,哈哈哎喲...誰管了。坦白說一個人跟誰誰誰曖昧,做過愛,也不管我的事。是我們生活得太無聊了嗎?或是吃飯的時候沒有好話題聊?要在討論別人,不如先好好為自己著想?

--- --- ---

上星期五在Volar,有朋友突然很驚訝得問,“misspicy,原來你是單身哦?How is that possible?” 我那時候心里面還比他驚訝,驚訝得有人會還比我直接問問題,驚訝得不知道他是為我覺得糟糕或是要介紹帥哥給我認識。最搞笑的是Peter這個大聲公還問其他人幫我回答。最后我的bros就說了:

Dave說:“誰說她single? 沒找到好的而已。”
Jay說:“她是single呀,你認識好的帥哥嗎?不是呀?那小廢話喝酒吧!”
Peter就說:“Nonono...she's actually lesbian.”

我看那個小鬼到最后也只是驚訝得沒話好說。

--- --- ---

上星期跟daddy聊天,一個50多歲男人跟20多歲女人的感慨:

Daddy:哎喲,我最近很累哦。房子裝收差不多,可是還有很多細節要弄好。女人到更年期真的還要更情緒化,煩死了。現在最開心該是那5隻狗狗,可以從花園跑到屋頂。
misspicy: 我也是。天哦daddy, 我下一輩子要做男人,你知道現在做女人有多累喔?我們不像你們年代,現在男女平等。。。我們除了要好好的管好一個家以外,還要做好自己工作上的分內事。可是你還好了,起碼有一個還比你累的女人在你背后嗯。
Daddy: 哈哈,是嗎?
misspicy: 嗯,每個成功男人背后都有個女人。

--- --- ---

其實回頭看,我很lucky有機會認識過不同國家,背景,信念的人。尤其是在上海一個百變的‘大’城市(我說‘大’因為她是比香港大三倍),很多友情是來到這個陌生的地方而自然發生的。我管你是誰誰誰的孩子,家里有多小錢,家族生意做什么,以前讀什么學校。。。?!我認識一個朋友是有興趣去了解你本人,個性,好得壞得。。。而希望今天可以一起分享酸甜苦辣。就算一天變成陌生人,在街頭上碰到,也真心笑著打個招呼。

上海改變了我的一個愛情觀,以前我也一直在等白馬王子,因為每個女孩子都會想有一份對未來的希望。可是人越大越發現,如果一個人關心你,緊張你,愛你;很多甜言物語只是噴了香水的bullshit。

我同意,上海真的是一個男人的天堂。男人在上海就好象變成小男孩一樣;玩具反斗城(Toys'r'us)24小時營業,每天可以買個新玩具,悶了就丟,明天又出買一個新的,又玩過。這個不是一個在上海或不在上海的debate. 不是‘對’或‘錯’,‘好’或‘壞’的辯論。

就算對我(女人)來說,也是另外一個天堂。每周有不同的party/events/openings, 不想出去玩可以跟朋友喝喝咖啡,吃個飯,做按摩,facial,逛逛小店,有阿姨幫我打掃,what can i really complain? 我只是不甘做玩具反斗城里面的玩具,我們女人買bra都先在更衣室里面左試右試才知道fit不fit自己身材啦

長話短說(終于有睡意了)。。。

因為以前有一個男人愛過我,所以對“in a relationship”的respect很大。因為覺得“男女朋友關系”也是對自己和另外一半的責任,所以不會輕易的答應。因為如果你要去玩具反斗城,沒有保安會來控制你。因為女人買bra,都會用幾個小時試一大堆內衣,結果可能也是不買。而且最后一點,因為我是女皇。