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Friday, September 18, 2009

Appreciating the little things in China


"Let's just walk."



Hong Kong is still one of the most vibrantly developed city of Asia.



But blue sunny skies and white clouds...is really that simple and nice.


A reminiscent moment...

Since mom's back in HK, I'm temporarily living and working as a "single" again. From taking out the trash, to cleaning the apartment, and taking Lyka out for her walks...it's been a lot of little daily tasks added on the platter. Not that I'm complaining, in fact it's been one of the best "breaks" in awhile. Walking Lyka at night, taking her off the leash and just strolling my street down...it's really peaceful. It's a moment of just me and Lyka, her doing her thing, peeing at every little corner (i think she's possessive and stubborn...she just HAS to make her mark on every other tree and corner...as if to let u know "HEY IVE BEEN HERE" *snickers*); and for me, a simple quiet moment to sort out my thoughts and just enjoy the moment, of walking.

Sometimes, Shanghai is quite the hustle and bustle city...so many changes happening by the day, it's somewhat subtle and yet fast paced. One day, a restaurant opens; the next day, a new club opening. One weekend, friends are in town visiting, another weekend with clients. This is a city that doesn't stop. And it's this energy, this vibe, this change...that has made me love (and hate) this city, at different moments.

But I'll admit to this. Living in an environment like this, can blur one's vision. It can be exhausting. And soul-draining. One's vision of what's real, what's genuine, and what really matters...can be easily distorted. A well-decored shop, selling no-brand designer-ish clothes at ¥1000+ a piece; could be the hottest spot in town this month...and 3 months later, it's gone. A new restaurant with top quality food and decor, only to be filled with lazy staff, slow orders, distasteful food...within a span of half a year. An ambitious entrepreneur new in Shanghai, excited and passionate and hopeful (i.e.: innocent, naive), only to have met the wrong people or because of the lack of China-experience...ends up losing all initial investments/savings. Everything that once felt permanent, ends up temporary.

On the other hand, these temporary moments of "high"...like, an invitation-only event launch, concert, restaurant opening, artist press conference, fashion show...how real/accessible is it in Shanghai vs. let's say Hong Kong, Tokyo, New York, London, Paris? And we're spoiled with all this, because of what we do (or who we know) and also the fact that living in Shanghai seems to have granted us with easy easier access, of it all. My question however is, when does it hit one person...to understand and realize, there's also much more to appreciate, than all of the above?

What happened to good friends? Girlfriends who you can call in the middle of the night, crying or drunk or laughing our asses off...and simply knowing she'll pick up and there when you need it? What about an invitation to a heartful home-cooked meal, to simply indulge in the food and company? What about the men (or women) who is mature enough to understand...there is no perfect partner out there? What about working together as a team, with a united goal to achieve, and help each other out through our strengths and weaknesses?

Or the random acts of kindness, that happens (yes scaryJ, it DOES happen OK?) when...your neighbors hold the elevator, waiting for you to come in? Or the security guard who asks if it's okay to come inside to your apartment, coz something from above seems to have fallen down, but they're not sure which floor and are worried it might cause an accident? Or your coworker who will work/stay/spend over-time with you, not because she hasn't finished her work, but she's offering her help to translate or keep you company? Or someone finding/returning a phone you've previously lost, from a crazy night out?*

Excuse the sentimental post today, but I still stubbornly strongly believe that...one person's attitude, defines it all. And learning to seek and appreciate the little things in life...has been the most humbling, appreciative, and heartfelt experience in China.  

"It's not how bad this world is...it's what good you try to make outta it."

*100 % misspicy experiences in China...good things do happen!!

Sunday, May 10, 2009

媽媽,母親節快樂

我還記小時候每一年到母親節,我會親手做一張卡給媽媽;買一份會讓她開心的小禮物;陪她出去逛逛,到酒店喝 high tea,希望讓媽媽有一個心刻的回憶。

可是人越大,不管是太忙,或是沒心情,或是忘了媽媽的偉大。。。就很自然的忘了她10月懷胎的痛,忘了出生後她就24小時服務著我,下課跟我補習,考試還比我緊張,每一步媽媽都是為了我,她為我付出。。。實在太容易忘了她所為我付出的血汗。

單身母親還比較痛苦;除了要管好自己情緒,還擔心著我的心靈健康。一個女人在這情況,真的很容易迷失了自己。因為她會覺得她的生命沒有女兒的生命重要。。。她會想把最好的東西都先給我。原來,母愛真的不簡單。

這種付出,我還是不了解。可能我比較自私吧,所以覺得女人還是要先為自己著想。

這一年母親節,有一刻心酸的感覺。。。心酸看到媽媽老了,心疼她身體沒有這么好了,還要她照顧家里的東西。突然間,真的好想好想讓她生活得好一點,素服一點。。。因為,她真的受夠了。我不想她再要受苦,我不想她再被人家傷害。。。我希望給她最好的,讓她好好生活。。。

媽媽,就算有時候我會特意的跟你吵,或是不得意間說的話傷了你。。。這個是我不對,我知道。I'm sorry but thank you. Because you've always forgiven me, time after time...and that's very remarkable. Because you've taught me to be a person with compassion, even when life's not fair. I'm proud of you for that.