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Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Rest in Peace 512




6-4-1989. 9-11-2001. 5-12-2008.

Unforgettable numbers. These numbers have changed the way how many people have lived. How they look at life. And what they hope in life.

A wave of injustice overwhelmed me today. It is days like today, that reminded me...while I'm sitting indoors with air conditioner, sipping my coffee and typing away at the office...that people have died. That people have actually lost their homes, their families, friends and their lives...within seconds.

It is a scary reminder...regardless of how much time and effort I've spent building my "ideal" reality or my "so-called career"...EVERYTHING and anything, can diminish within seconds. The mystery of life, is the unexpected...for better, or worst.

What pains me, is the thought of the after quake survivors, the children who’ve lost their parents and education, one year ago today. I cannot imagine, a kid, looking for his mom, seeing the blood, hearing the screams, anticipating another quake…that haunts him still, today. The nightmare and endless traumas, these children will have to face, day by day, and how it will affect them, as they step into tomorrow, overcoming the loss, and bearing with pain to rebuilding their future.

The wound may be healed, but the pain remains.

A friend of mine, Andy, is the Senior Research Officer at the University of Hong Kong Center on Behavioral Health. What he does in his line of work is inspiring and our conversations have always been very liberating. Aside from researching on behavioral health, he is also an Honorary Lecturer who teaches university students. To talk to someone who’s a researcher of human behavior, of life and death, is far more intriguing than an ordinary Shanghai conversation of how-much-she-makes or what-has-happened-to-whom. Through the past year, Andy’s always supplied me with thought-provoking conversations and moments of support when I really needed someone to listen.

Through his line of work, he visited Sichuan numerous times last year. Andy and his team visited the most devastated sites and conducted assessments on the wellbeing of the survivors. The Chinese government had a lot of financial support and put in great efforts in rebuilding the hardware -temporary housing and schools- but unfortunately there was a shortage of professionals who knew how to take care of the psychosocial aspects of the survivors. Despite the temporary housing provided, the conditions weren’t ideal. The safety and privacy of the survivors, supplying food and water, and social justice were all concerns. Those who have lost family members during the quake, those who needed the support the most, were not provided with any.

The research Andy and his team conducted was to organize the population groups that needs the most attention.

The first group is the cadres, the local village officers, who received the responsibility and pressure from the government to provide support to the villagers. At the same time, these people were also earthquake survivors.

The second group is the school teachers, facing the same stresses from the government and local village officers, and the additional pressure from childless parents; yet these teachers are also facing the pain and losses themselves.

And the third group is the children. Facing the family loss, they had no one to talk to, nor anyone who knew how to talk to them.

In remembrance of this day, I’ve asked Andy to share some of his experiences and photos he’s taken in the past year. He will be returning Sichuan later this week and will keep posting to share his experiences.

I believe there are things in life that happen for a reason, and some things should not be forgotten. I pray for all the survivors to have the strength and peace to face today, but also in paving their future with happiness and hope. I pray for the pain to subside, and the wounds to be healed.

*Photo courtesy of Andy

Sunday, May 10, 2009

媽媽,母親節快樂

我還記小時候每一年到母親節,我會親手做一張卡給媽媽;買一份會讓她開心的小禮物;陪她出去逛逛,到酒店喝 high tea,希望讓媽媽有一個心刻的回憶。

可是人越大,不管是太忙,或是沒心情,或是忘了媽媽的偉大。。。就很自然的忘了她10月懷胎的痛,忘了出生後她就24小時服務著我,下課跟我補習,考試還比我緊張,每一步媽媽都是為了我,她為我付出。。。實在太容易忘了她所為我付出的血汗。

單身母親還比較痛苦;除了要管好自己情緒,還擔心著我的心靈健康。一個女人在這情況,真的很容易迷失了自己。因為她會覺得她的生命沒有女兒的生命重要。。。她會想把最好的東西都先給我。原來,母愛真的不簡單。

這種付出,我還是不了解。可能我比較自私吧,所以覺得女人還是要先為自己著想。

這一年母親節,有一刻心酸的感覺。。。心酸看到媽媽老了,心疼她身體沒有這么好了,還要她照顧家里的東西。突然間,真的好想好想讓她生活得好一點,素服一點。。。因為,她真的受夠了。我不想她再要受苦,我不想她再被人家傷害。。。我希望給她最好的,讓她好好生活。。。

媽媽,就算有時候我會特意的跟你吵,或是不得意間說的話傷了你。。。這個是我不對,我知道。I'm sorry but thank you. Because you've always forgiven me, time after time...and that's very remarkable. Because you've taught me to be a person with compassion, even when life's not fair. I'm proud of you for that.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Don't let China kill you




Guangzhou Hospital Directory

"All Cunts head to Examination Room, while Fetal Hearts remain in Custody."


Seriously, don't die in China. Unless you don't mind bleeding your way while waiting in lines, people shoving, nurses yelling, people staring at your bloody body, and doctors ditching their work stations...consider yourself lucky, because after all that, you are still alive and bleeding.

The medical system of China is chaotically unorganized. Step into a hospital and you are greeted with unclear signs, poor directions, helpless receptionists, and overworked doctors and nurses. They are pissed, they are impatient, and majority of them don't care if you live or die. Wait, I take that back...if you have the money, then they'd care.

Why?

Do 1 or 2 alive or dead people, out of 1.3 billion, really make much of a difference?

Doctors and nurses are typically overworked, underpaid and constantly dealing with sick, dying, and troublesome patients.

Hospitals (local) don't make money through consultations or giving a shit about you; nor is there medical insurance for the hospitals to get some money elsewhere.

Hospital business derives from medication sales, lab tests and "excess charges".

"Life is cheap, but medication can cost."


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True Story^:


2 years ago, ABC moved to China for a fresh start in life. He grew up and was educated in the US, cannot speak fluent Chinese (nor read or write, unless writing in pin yin pronunciation counts), yet was full of hope to move to China, and live the "American" dream: "anything and everything is possible".

8 months after moving, still jobless and American, China life got to him. He didn't get the job he thought he should; he didn't want to live and work as it would be a sacrifice to what he "was" and "should" be making in the States. He was expecting China to have American standards of living, and he did not adjust. He was angry. He hated it. In order to hide away from his reality, he indulged in drinking at nights, and slept his days away.

One early morning, around 6:25am, I received a disturbing call from him.

ABC: "Hey. What are you up to?"
Me: "Excuse me? It's 6:30, what do you think I'd be doing aside from sleeping?"
ABC: "Oh, sorry to wake you up."
Me: "Ughh hmm. What are you doing up at this hour...wassup..."
ABC: "Umm...*voice starts to crack*...I'm in the hospital and don't know who else is here. I need a friend...I really can't do this anymore. Can you please come over and take care of me?"
Me: "Fuck...what have you gotten yourself into this time..."
ABC: "Please...just come."
Me: "Ughh. I'll be there in 15."

6:45am, arriving local hospital to see ABC waiting outside

Me: "Hun...you ok?
ABC: "Let's go grab breakfast."
Me: "Huh....okayyy. Would you like to tell me what exactly happened?"
ABC: "Uhh...nothing. I smashed my elbow into the glass window coz I was drunk. My roommate took me here and he just left with his girl for some food. Come on, let's go I'm starving."
Me: "Uhhh...right. So, did the nurses or doctors disinfect your wound? Did you need stitches?"
ABC: "Hmm...no. I don't think i needed stitches. I walked into the hospital with a blood soaked towel, screaming and scared as hell. The nurses and doctors were all staring at me as if i was psycho. Someone took me to a room, took a look at it, wrapped the wound with guaze and sent me away...Oh shit, i left my towel inside."
Me: "You must be fucking kidding me (while still staring at his blood stained shirt). No breakfast for us, we're going somewhere else. "

7:05am, at Chen Xin Hospital

ABC: "Dude, seriously do we have to do this?"
Me: "Yes and shut up. I'm not sure what the doctors and nurses at the previous hospital did (or rather not), and it's best if you have it checked out again at a private hospital."
ABC: "Nahh, I'll be fine..."
Me: *rolls eyes*

7:10am, in Consultation Room

Doctor: "Oh dear...what happened?"
ABC: *repeats story*
Doctor: "We need to clean this wound immediately. The wound looks deep, shattered pieces of glass could still be in there, and you'll need stitches."
ABC: "WHAT?"
Doctor: "Nurse, please take him away."

8:05am

Nurse: "Okay, 13 stitches, done. You'll have to stay away from alcohol this week, keep this wound dry, and come back everyday in the coming 3 days so we can wash and disinfect the wound. The stitch may leave scars, but if you take good care of it, it shouldn't be too noticeable."


^Names and locations have been changed in order to protect the privacy of local hospital and dumbasses involved.
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So my angry drunk friend was in pain and bleeding, yet unfortunately noone at the first hospital really cared about it. I suppose it was too early in the morning for them to start their day at work. Or they found my friend disturbing their peace, while screaming and yelling and crying in pain.

Need I say more? Overworked and underpaid people are not happy. Unhappy people don't care whether you are happy or not happy. Life is apparently cheap, unless you have money. But even with money, it doesn't mean you don't bleed. So point of my random rant...just don't let China kill you.

(btw, ABC left China after 6 months of incident.)


Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Dear Client


Dear Client,

Thank you so much for using my time up so well.

It's been 7 months, 18 versions of the contract, 6 different quotations and endless negotiations.

I admire the smartness of your witty comebacks;
your determination to finding another company to provide the same services;
your patience while I drop every other meeting in order to serve your highness;
and the impeccable negotiation skills as if we're buying real LV bags at fake prices.

It is my astounding pleasure in meeting someone like you. It has been an effective and professional 7 months of communication. I look forward to signing the contract and start this process, all over again.

Attached you will find the revised contract, stamped and sealed. Looking forward to hearing your lawyer's comments.


Best regards,
misspicy


Sunday, May 3, 2009

II. Cab Drivers


Incident 2
Saturday afternoon, 5:35pm:

Driver, "Oh hi there."
Me, "Hi...can you take me to Wan Hang Du Lu and Hua Yang Lu?"
Driver, "Sure...i think i've met you before."
Me, "Oh...really?"
Driver, "Yeah, Zhong Shan Park right? I recognize your voice...you took my cab before."
Me, *dont know how to react* "Oh...cool."
Driver, "Yep...aren't you Taiwanese?"
Me, "Uhh, no...Hong Kong."
Driver, "Ahhh, so your English must be good huh? I am always impressed at how Hong Kongers speak Cantonese with a few English here or there...or English with a few Cantonese mixed up."
Me, "Hah, well isn't that the same as Shanghainese mixed with Mandarin?"
Driver, "Hahaha damn right."


---5 Minutes Later---


Driver, "So how's your English?"
Me, "It's okay."
Driver, "Ah you know yesterday I heard this song...it's called You Flind Me I think. Every heard of it?"
Me, "Hmm, no."
Driver, "I'm not too sure if it's You Flind Me or You Flownd Me...is it F-I-N-D or F-O-U-N-D?"
Me, "I assume it's Found...You Found Me."
Driver, "Cool I'll look for it online tonight."
Me, "Mhmm hmm. Wow your English is pretty good too."
Driver, "Yeah I learned a little at school in Chong Ming Island. Try to remember what I hear from the radio. It's hard though. Hey what about that new hot hip hop american artist...Lady GaGa?"
Me, *chuckles*
Driver, "Apparently she's one of the hottest singers now, right?"
Me, "Yeah."
Driver, "But for Christ sake, what kind of name is Lady GaGa?"
Me, "Its...uhm, just an artist name?"
Driver, "What does it mean?"
Me, "Good question. So how long have you drove for?"
Driver, "A year. Grew up in Chongming Island and studied a little in Shanghai too. After (high school) graduation, I started driving."
Me, *shocked and surprised and realized the driver is either...in his late teens or early 20's*


---Arrives home and pays for cab ride---


Driver, "Thanks Miss, i'll look up the songs tonight."
Me, "Cool, have fun."
Driver, "Don't forget your belongings, bye!"


Conclusion?
Drivers love to talk...about anything. If it's a friendly conversation, they can talk...and talk...and talk. Provides entertainment to their 24hr shifts. Try driving fror 24 hours, while having naps in your car in between. Singing and talking perhaps keeps them sane.



Saturday, May 2, 2009

I. Cab Drivers


Driver, "Miss, where would you like to go today?"
Me, "Please take me to Jian Guo Xi Lu and Xiang Yang Lu."
Drive, "Sure, I'll drive down Hua Shan Lu, make a left on Hunan Lu, until we hit Jian Guo Xi Lu; is that route preferable?"
Me, "Yes please, that's fine thank you."

...and when that day happens, I'll treat you for a coffee. Everyone of you. But before that day happening, this will be closer to what actually REALLY happens.
(Thank God not on a daily basis...*touchwood*)

Incident 1

Monday morning, 9:15am:

Me, "Shifu, take me to Jian Guo Xi Lu and Xiang Yang Lu. Drive down Hua Shan Lu, make a left on Hunan Lu, until we hit Jian Guo Xi Lu. Ok?"
Driver, "..." (no answer)
Me, "Shifu, is that OKAY with you?"
Driver, "En."
Me, *rolls eyes*
Driver, *drives down Wulumuqi Lu*
Me, "Excuse me, I thought I told you to go down Hua Shan Lu?"
Driver, "Oh right...but this is closer."
Me, "No its not closer at this hour because you're going through the office districts and traffic is horrible."
Driver, "But it's closer."
Me, "But it takes up too much time and I'll be late!!!"
Driver, *says nothing*
Me, "Now is my Chinese really that bad or should I just hop to the driver's seat, you can sit at the back, and when I reach my destination, you can pay me?"
Driver, *laughs*
Me, *late*


Conclusion?
Chinese drivers have one helluva sense of humor...at my expense.

Welcome to a little of China today

...so this is it. Finally, I've set it up. This blog, this online diary thingy, this momentarily random, senseless rant I'm going to use to share with you...a little of China today.

No, it's not just about China. It's not just about the ridiculous hospital operator, who told me to call back tomorrow, to see if their lab's opened. It's not just about how this Nazi-client has taken 7 months of negotiations, to finally be confirmed and (hopefully) signed next week. It's also about a life, an experience, the emotions, and the people involved in my China life, who's made everyday in my 4.5 years of life, a little bit more lively, fulfilling, interesting, emotional and humane.

Everyone else who's not lived and worked in China is "amazed" with all the stories, the news, the publicity, the political changes or religious views of 1.3 billion people. I can't stand for 1.3 billion people, but I try not to be too "amazed" through color-tinted glasses.

"Ohmigod, they eat dogs and cats?"
(thinks to self: Escargot - snails- are a French delicacy)
"People sell their kids for money?"
(thinks to self: and women are not abused, raped, less-respected within different countries or religions?)

Please...before we try to judge, I welcome you to a little of China today. And let's be "amazed" to see what's to come tomorrow.




*Note:

Answer to image and quoted-perspectives: True.